Swinging is a current or a sexual practice that libertines adopt, and which consists in exchanging his or her partner for a predefined period, during the different stages of the report, with the purpose of the sexual (or social) relationship.
Concretely, this means that libertines, or “swingers”, will exchange their partners during sexual activity, with another partner.
However, there are a few subtleties to consider first. First of all, swinging and group sex are two different things. A swinger couple can only share a single couple and enjoy together.
Likewise, they are different from polyamorous people, who are more the type to avoid any romantic attachment with partners outside the relationship, and therefore prefer to keep the relationship sexual only.
Swingers, on the other hand, often go out with their “partners in crimes”, whether in a restaurant, in a bar, or even at the cinema. These are people who get along well, and who, beyond the sexual aspect, like to spend time together.
Swingers can be married or just in a regular relationship. They enjoy having sex with various people, so they can satisfy certain sexual desires and fetishes.
Their meetings and their activities take place in closed private and dedicated places, or simply at home.
Some statistics
It is interesting to research a little what the figures are on this subject. Because you might think it's deviance or some weird sexual tendency that only a few people care about. However, in France, it is an extremely popular fetish, which you can concretize by looking for our ad transexual.
Both on adult sites and in a more concrete register, swinging fascinates and arouses curiosity. According to statistics, more than 1% of the population has already tried swinging, while nearly 10% say they are “inclined to try the adventure”.
Why swing?
The traditional morality of the monogamous relationship is totally against the practice of swinging. Have you ever considered allowing or even encouraging your wife to cheat on you with another? The answer is likely to be negative.
Still, it's a common fetish and a beneficial choice for several reasons. Swinging can be good for your relationship if it's faltering, or just to change up your sex life a bit.
Here are some of the reasons to practice swinging:
- Spice up routine sex life
- Explore their sex life and curiosity, bisexuality for example
- Trying to satisfy certain common sexual inclinations but impossible to practice in a monogamous relationship, such as threesome sex for example
- Have a serious relationship while remaining sexually free
- Separate sex from a deep emotional relationship (if possible)
- Competition and jealousy can be a very exciting factor
Codes for swinging
When you're a swinger, in general, there is a kind of amalgamation of many terms and fetishes, as if they all go together. However, this is far from the case.
Regular partner swapping and penetration is called true swinging. Foursome touching is mixing (a term derived from swinging). The sexual relationship close to people is voyeurism, or exhibitionism, called “side-by-side” in France.
Thus, swinging is only a tiny part of group sex. But anyway, group relations and swinging are strictly controlled.
This is why licentiousness, and swinging, are strictly codified. These codes, we could not have them all, but there are some quite well known, used in specially dedicated clubs. Here is their meaning:
- 2+2: physical separation of couples, then a transfer of partners
- 4: permanent proximity of all the participants, without there necessarily being penetration between them
- 3+1: one person is isolated. She is placed either in the center or isolated from the group as a voyeur.
How to become a swinger
To become a swinger, there are several points to take into account so that your session goes well. Consent, as you know, is always the first thing to consider.
Even though it's a sensitive topic, know that nothing good will happen to you if you don't try. So talk to your partner about it, even if he or she may get offended.
Do not hesitate to explain your point of view in detail, with the arguments for and the arguments against, so that he or she understands your feelings and what you hope to gain from it.
Next, set boundaries. For example, yes for a 4, but not for a 2+2. "You can try voyeurism, but not partner swapping for the first time." Without it, you risk complicating things, embarrassing yourself, and damaging your relationship…
You can also think about the frequency of your antics, your outings. But you can also prohibit and authorize only certain practices, and certain people. At the same time, determine the health and safety measures to be taken.
How do I find other swingers?
After you've set the boundaries for your activities, and heard the expectations you both have, you can start looking for other swingers.
And for that, you have several means. First of all, the somewhat old-school way is to search for real. Indeed, there are social events exclusively dedicated to the libertine meeting.
You can also very well try to talk about it with people you already know, like this very nice couple in the neighborhood. Or, you can choose to hire an escort girl to indulge in group sex, or simply to test partner-swapping “virtually”.
And you have the easiest way is to use the internet. Our apps dedicated to dating and the escort service are perfect for getting started, but there are also Tinder and many other dedicated apps that will allow you to find the shoe that suits you.
A little advice for the end: when you approach other swingers, for example in a specialized club, come politely and respectfully and be courteous.
Finally, exchange your expectations and set your limits.